Author: Michael Riera, PH.D.
Nothing in a parent’s life is more trying, confusing, and
frustrating than raising a teenager.
They are moody, self-centered, and full of mixed messages; at least
that’s the way normal, healthy teenagers behave. That will not change. As the parent of a teenager, you know all too
well that your job entails setting limits, having big talks, enforcing
consequences, helping them to learn from their mistakes, and putting them on
course for a happy and successful adulthood.
Talk about an exhausting task (p. 1).
I love this introduction!
It says it all! We as parents
have a daunting task ahead of us to help guide these young people through some
pretty rough years. What I really
enjoyed about this book is that it is all about connecting to your child. Riera suggests that the number one complaint
of parents of teenagers is the lack of communication. He offers great insight in to ways we, as
parents, can connect and actually learn to enjoy being around our teens. And believe it or not, your teens may
actually, deep inside, want that connection with you. This book is not about getting your child to
bend to your wishes, but to be open-minded in understanding what your child
needs from you. They are trying to be
autonomous from you, to think for themselves, but they need reassurance that
they are capable of managing their lives and that their parents are there when
they need support. Riera suggests that
parents look at their roles as changing from manager to consultant; both very
critical roles, but very different.
Sample of topics covered:
*the best
time to talk to your teen is on their schedule:
late at night
*teen sleep
patterns
*adolescent
narcissism
*giving up on lectures and advice
*self-esteem through integrity
Conclusion: I really
enjoyed this book. It flowed very
easily, as if you were having an actual conversation with the author. He uses many examples from issues actual
parents have dealt with and written about.
I found myself reliving the teen years of my own children and the issues
we dealt with and are continuing to deal with.
I would highly recommend this book. It was insightful, well written and easy to
associate with. It was full of
suggestions which could easily be incorporated into your interactions with your
teens without them thinking something was up.
~Tami
2 comments:
That seems like a great book to read Tami! I'll have get it, becuase there aren't very many books out there that are good readers.
Chelsey
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